"The Breakup"...How did we get here?

I know I should have listened to the cashier at the video store when she said that if you had been through a divorce or bad break up, this movie (The Break Up) will be like reliving it. While it is filled with actors and actresses noted for their comedic work, the film follows the lives of two people who started off so in love, but ended up taking each other for granted. One more so than the other. A line in the movie that I have uttered and I am sure many who have been in a similar situation have as well was, "How did we get here?" We see them emotionally brutalize each other through vengeful and hurtful acts. With their words and actions, they ruin any type of chance of repairing their relationship. They were both feeling and thinking the same things, but let their egos get in the way. Instead of saying what they felt they were silent, instead of saying what they should have, they got revenge. In the end it was too late. But maybe not for the rest of us.

We all have been in relationships that did not work. Regrets over what we have said or done. I should have done this or that differently. Women like to talk things out, men like to ignore the issue and hope it goes away. These type of oil and water personalities can be over come. My advice to guys is to say what you really mean. Never say anything out of anger, never say something just because you are jealous. For women, avoid the head games and be truthful. We are not mind readers. You can either be right and single or wrong and married, but you can't be both. Sometimes in order for us to be right, we have to be wrong. When you have two people who are stubborn and have to be right, there has to be some sort of compromise. Other wise you will find yourself asking "How did we get here?"