Why men are stupid...

Well that sure got your attention. Many times, a male's lack of conversation with his significant other is seen as boredom in the relationship or simply not caring. "What are you thinking about?" She asks, my wise ass reply would go something like "Well if I wanted you to know, I would be talking now don't ya think." To save myself the hour long verbal attack that would follow I usually would just say "Nothing." See ladies, that's the truth, nothing. When a guy is watching TV and you ask him something like that, you might want some profound answer when really we are thinking about "Nothing." We simply want to see who is getting invited to the Heisman ceremony, who is in the BCS bowl games and what the night's scores were. This little word, has gotten me into so many, too many arguments. Which brings me to the topic of this post - conversation.

If you have ever sat down and watched two men interact you would be amazed at how little is said or the amount of substance in the actual conversation. You see we communicate with a grunt, slight "mmhmm" or a head nod. Take my best friend for example, it is usually a one sided conversation (me), when there is any at all. We have been best friends for so long (15 years) that he knows when to probe or to let me steam. He knows what to say to make me more upset or what will make me think more rationally. And I can tell you that he can do it in a sentence or two, if that. Sometimes this lack of communication is interpreted as not caring at all. I remember one particular fight I had with an ex, which went on and on about how I did not even try or care any more becuase I had not responded. The truth of the matter was that I did care and in the moment, I was running so emotionally high, that I knew if I opened my mouth it would turn into verbal diarrhea and serve only to exacerbate the whole thing. Pursing my lips and nodding my head had been interpreted by my ex as me saying "I hate you, this conversation is done." When in fact it meant I had conceded defeat, that I was wrong. You see, many men would like to respond, given the chance, just lots of times we just don't know how to put it into words without making our partners more upset. Ladies we do care, give us the benefit of the doubt. We are not stupid, most times "Nothing" means "Nothing."